{"id":6132,"date":"2026-03-30T13:03:27","date_gmt":"2026-03-30T20:03:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/odaatchat.com\/?p=6132"},"modified":"2026-04-02T09:48:28","modified_gmt":"2026-04-02T16:48:28","slug":"the-6-saboteurs-destroying-your-self-control-and-how-to-beat-them-with-eric-zimmer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/odaatchat.com\/index.php\/2026\/03\/30\/the-6-saboteurs-destroying-your-self-control-and-how-to-beat-them-with-eric-zimmer\/","title":{"rendered":"The 6 Saboteurs Destroying Your Self-Control (And How to Beat Them) with Eric Zimmer"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Embed Player\" src=\"https:\/\/play.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/40673910\/height\/128\/theme\/modern\/size\/standard\/thumbnail\/yes\/custom-color\/87A93A\/time-start\/00:00:00\/playlist-height\/200\/direction\/backward\/download\/yes\/font-color\/FFFFFF\" height=\"128\" width=\"100%\" scrolling=\"no\" allowfullscreen=\"\" webkitallowfullscreen=\"true\" mozallowfullscreen=\"true\" oallowfullscreen=\"true\" msallowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border: none;\"><\/iframe>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">What if the secret to lasting change isn&#8217;t a single powerful moment, but thousands of tiny, unremarkable ones?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">That&#8217;s the central idea behind Eric Zimmer&#8217;s powerful new book, <em>How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life<\/em>. Eric is the host of <em>The One You Feed<\/em> podcast and a long-time figure in the recovery community with 26 years of sobriety. In Episode 424, he and I explored why real transformation happens slowly \u2014 and why that&#8217;s actually good news.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Hammer and the Chisel<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Eric opens his book with the story of Dasrath Manjhi, an Indian man who lost his wife because the road to the hospital was impossibly long. After her death, he took a hammer and chisel to the mountain separating his village from the town and spent decades chipping away at it \u2014 enduring ridicule and seemingly no progress \u2014 until he had carved a path that cut travel time by 90%. Eric calls this the ultimate story of how a little becomes a lot: not dynamite, just consistent effort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why Progress Is Invisible Before It&#8217;s Obvious<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">One of the most important points Eric makes is that progress happens long before we can see it. Our brains, wired for negativity bias, are constantly scanning for what&#8217;s not working \u2014 which makes it easy to miss all the marbles accumulating in the jar. He shared a story of a client who began putting a marble in a jar each sober day (without removing any for slips), and how seeing that jar fill up over months changed her entire relationship with her recovery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Recipe for Change<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Eric&#8217;s formula is simple but not easy: <strong>low-resistance actions, done consistently, over time, in the same direction.<\/strong> Low-resistance doesn&#8217;t mean tiny \u2014 it means something you will actually do. Consistent means you don&#8217;t stop when it gets hard or invisible. And same direction means you aren&#8217;t scattered across 30 goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The 6 Saboteurs of Self-Control<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Eric identifies six things that derail us at our &#8220;choice points&#8221;:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\"><strong>The Autopilot Pitfall<\/strong> \u2014 acting without awareness (hello, phone scrolling)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\"><strong>Fatigue Fallout<\/strong> \u2014 being too tired to make good choices<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\"><strong>The Shortsighted Stumble<\/strong> \u2014 valuing the present over the future (play the tape all the way through)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\"><strong>Emotional Escapism<\/strong> \u2014 wanting to feel different than you do<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\"><strong>The Self-Doubt Stalemate<\/strong> \u2014 believing you can&#8217;t do it<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\"><strong>The Insignificance Trap<\/strong> \u2014 thinking one day doesn&#8217;t matter<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Action Items from This Episode<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\">Do the values exercise on page 35: identify three times you were happiest, most proud, and most fulfilled \u2014 then look for the pattern.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">Pick a &#8220;guide&#8221; \u2014 someone you admire \u2014 and note what qualities you admire. Those are your values.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">Identify your current top saboteur and name one structural change to make it easier to choose well.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">Start a marble jar. Seriously.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Books &amp; Resources Mentioned<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\"><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/4v03tBr\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" title=\"\"><em>How a Little Becomes a Lot<\/em> by Eric Zimmer<\/a> &#8211; Buy Here<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\"><em>The One You Feed<\/em> podcast \u2014 oneyoufeed.net<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Guest Website: https:\/\/oneyoufeed.net<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><strong>\ud83d\udc4a\ud83c\udffcNeed help applying this information to your own life?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Here are 3 ways to get started:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><strong>\ud83c\udf81Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days &#8211; With a printable PDF checklist<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Grab your copy here: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.soberlifeschool.com\">https:\/\/www.soberlifeschool.com<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><strong>\u260e\ufe0fPrivate Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.makesobrietystick.com\">https:\/\/www.makesobrietystick.com<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><strong>Subscribe So You Don\u2019t Miss New Episodes!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><strong><em>Listen to the episode on<\/em><\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521\"><strong><em>Apple Podcasts<\/em><\/strong><\/a><strong><em>, <\/em><\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB\"><strong><em>Spotify<\/em><\/strong><\/a><strong><em>, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website <\/em><\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.odaatchat.com\"><strong><em>HERE<\/em><\/strong><\/a><strong><em>. You can also watch the interview on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" title=\"\">YouTube.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"295\" height=\"121\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-17.png?fit=295%2C121&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-6134\" style=\"width:189px;height:auto\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521\"><strong><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"217\" height=\"76\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-18.png?fit=217%2C76&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-6135\" style=\"width:184px;height:auto\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1374\" height=\"334\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-19.png?fit=640%2C156&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-6136\" style=\"width:187px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-19.png?w=1374&amp;ssl=1 1374w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-19.png?resize=300%2C73&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-19.png?resize=1024%2C249&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-19.png?resize=768%2C187&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-19.png?w=1280&amp;ssl=1 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><a href=\"https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"179\" height=\"60\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/odaatchat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/image-20.png?fit=179%2C60&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-6137\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\"><strong>Apple: <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521\"><strong>https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Spotify: <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" title=\"\">https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Amazon Music: <a href=\"https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\">https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What if the secret to lasting change isn&#8217;t a single powerful moment, but thousands of tiny, unremarkable ones? 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